Can there be two careers under the same roof?
Thursday, June 30th, 2005MARITAL DIFFERENCES
Can there be two careers under the same roof?
What’s the number one cause for failed marriages these days? Infidelity? Perhaps, but I’m thinking more of something that can be rooted to the couple themselves? Finances? Close, but there should be something more than just a clash of budgetary concerns. Careers? Ahhh, now we’re talking.
It has become practical these days that both spouses engage in their respective careers to better provide for the needs of the family. On paper, this seems to be an ideal scenario. However, in practice, this setup seems to cause more trouble than benefits.
Sadly, there is a certain category of persons who are so involved with their careers, that they become absolutely rigid and inflexible, when it comes to a relationship. These people, nurturing hefty professional ambitions, have in common a series of qualities which make them so needed at work: they are always ready for competition, they have leadership qualities, but they can also follow rules and regulations. They live an exciting life and since they don’t have to compromise too much at work, they feel unable to negotiate things in a relation.
The way to make a love story work between two professionals is, without a doubt, practicing RESPECT! We finally live in a world where both men and women are equal, so we should all respect the other’s professional aspirations and share the responsibilities demanded by the household.
When you get involved with a professionally oriented person, try to understand that the job that person has is more than a regular one. It often involves working extra hours, bringing home work related materials that need to be read, traveling and participating in all sorts of events.
The greatest problem this kind of couples has to confront with is lack of time. That is why they have to keep in mind to try to make any second spent together a memorable one. Another key element is teamwork: all the responsibilities around the house must be shared, but also, each must be ready to solve something the other can’t do.
Here is some advice, regarding the rules that make a relationship work:
Try to learn and to be the best when it comes to organizing and scheduling the things you need to do.
At least once a week or once every two weeks plan a night out. It will help you remember that life is more than work and household responsibilities.
Although you have very little time to do the things you want, keep in mind to dedicate some of it only to yourself.
When you feel you can’t keep up with everything: taking care of the children, cooking, doing great at work, mowing the lawn, etc. Ask for help: turn to your parents, hire somebody a few hours a week, at least from time to time.
Keep in mind that communication is essential. Take advantage of every second you guys are together, in order to remind your partner how much she or he means to you.
Try to get rid of stress in any other place than home: instead of arguing with everybody, go to the gym!
Marriage is more than just a union between a man and a woman. It is a union of lives, of love, of quirks, of peeves, of eccentricities, of dreams, and of ways. Marriage is all about making these enjoinments work. Marriage is all about understanding.
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